“But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”
Luke 5:16 (NIV)
Jesus, a single man, often spent time in solitude with the Lord. Before and after He did anything the bible mentions Him retreating to a quiet place and praying to the Father. He was incredibly busy. He had a multitude of people depending on Him every single day. I’m sure He was exhausted at the beginning or end of the day. And yet He woke up everyday, while everyone slept, to pray. Nothing else nor no one else was more important. His time with the Lord was MOST important.
I work, attend two fellowship groups, I play piano for two bands at my church, am a leader and secretary for The Bridge Youth Ministries, a small group manager for the 5 different divisions of the Bridge Youth Ministries, I attend one service and serve at two youth services on Sundays, I do the weekly bulletins for both youth services and I write for Exemplify Online. I am a daughter, sister, friend, mentor, leader, writer and employee. I wear many hats and sometimes they become so numerous that my time with the Lord is compromised. I love the Lord with all my heart and I try to live a life of service and obedience. But sometimes I get so wrapped up in what I am doing for Him through my life, I don’t know how to stop and quiet my mind and spend time in solitude with Him.
I find that we single women, have the tendency to over commit ourselves. In wanting to serve the Lord and serve others, we overload ourselves with activities and different responsibilities. People begin to depend on us and we do not want to let them down. But what happens is that very quickly we become consumed with what we need to do for Lord or for others that we do not spend enough time with the Lord.
I was so busy with everything and I began to realize that my relationship with the Lord was suffering. I realized I missed Him. And then He brought it my attention…”You are barely spending time with me.” I needed to stop and listen to Him. Spend time with Him. Not saying anything just listening. Abiding. 
Nothing can not come between us and God. Nothing. Let us nurture and protect this relationship we have with the Father. He is our beloved.
These words seem to always be on my mind and in my heart. The Holy Spirit has the tendency to constantly remind me of them. The woman, ‘Beloved,’ repeats these words three times. Three times the Lord charges us: “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”


I went through those lonely nights that, for lack of a better description, just suck. I was sad. I threw myself at God’s feet; I cried; I told Him I know He is supposed to be my everything, but I didn’t feel that. I was brutally honest with Him and with myself. I finally admitted that I do long to have someone in my life. You might be reading this thinking, “Sonia, come on now!” But these feelings are uncommon to me. Vulnerability is a new language for me. I’ve always been guarded and I suppose without realizing I became guarded even to myself. I never realized how much I desired to have someone to love. All these feelings began stirring in me.
She “lives a life of purpose. Her personal mission is to help people discover their unique purpose and destiny then turn that purpose into a lifestyle that brings joy and makes an impact beyond their highest hopes and dream.”
We get the butterflies in our tummy…I know I sound like a little girl saying all this but let’s be serious, young or old we still feel this way when someone begins to tug at our hearts.


up and edify one another. You ladies understand the power that women hold. We cover our households – men are the head but women are the necks on which they stand. We are leaders, caregivers, nurturers, mothers, daughters, sisters, health providers…endless roles we can fulfill.