Jesus — Singles

Confessions…

February 12, 2010 By Sonia 9 Comments

This season has been tough…

I like to pride myself in my security as a single girl; focused on the Lord; not worrying about relationships; happy and at peace in the season i’m in. But honestly girls, this season has been tough for me. I’m going to be very open with you…

I found myself longing. girlinwindow I went through those lonely nights that, for lack of a better description, just suck. I was sad. I threw myself at God’s feet; I cried; I told Him I know He is supposed to be my everything, but I didn’t feel that. I was brutally honest with Him and with myself. I finally admitted that I do long to have someone in my life. You might be reading this thinking, “Sonia, come on now!” But these feelings are uncommon to me. Vulnerability is a new language for me. I’ve always been guarded and I suppose without realizing I became guarded even to myself. I never realized how much I desired to have someone to love. All these feelings began stirring in me.

It’s been a tough season. But you know what, it turned into the most unbelievably sweet season with God. Through all this, I delved deeper into a place of intimacy with Him. I longed for the comfort only He could give me. I longed for Him deeply…

“O God, you are my God, earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you, my body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no water.” [Psalm 63:1]

Then with every fiber of my being I pursued Him and laid down my heart in the rawest form. I told him everything I felt in the simplest words, then I let my gaze stray from what I felt and focused on Him. I thought of how sweet and faithful He is. I worshiped Him. I went after Him. I longed for comfort and He gave it to me. I longed to see his face and He showed it to me. I sought Him and I found Him. What an honor.

The Lord says, “I love those who love me, and those who seek me find me.” [Proverbs 8:17] Ughhh how sweet is that How good and faithful and sweet is our God!!!

In my sadness I noticed a peace that I hadn’t realized I had. The Lord bestowed upon me His perfect peace that is beyond all understanding. He is so good!

So why am I telling you my crazy stories? I want you to find comfort in Him. The Lord our God is faithful beyond anything I can fathom. His love runs deeper than any ocean. We are sinking in the ocean of His grace. How awesome is that! It’s incomprehensible to me! So lets begin this new year right by seeking an even deeper level of intimacy with the Lord. Worship him and get lost in praise. Sing songs to Him. [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBJeTdy8x3I&feature=related[/youtube] Write. Paint. Dance. Let Him give you visions and dreams. Just get completely and utterly lost with the Lord. Let the theme of this year be complete and utter surrender in intimacy. Whatever flows out from your heart give it to the Lord and in His faithfulness He will take hold of you. He is so Good.

God Bless You Ladies…

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I Propose a…

November 26, 2009 By Sonia Leave a Comment

….Date….

Before you think anything, lets talk….

What do you think about, when you think about God?

That’s an ever present question in my mind. What do I think about when I think about God? There are so many facets to this question but let me focus on one.

Think about how we change when we begin to have feelings for someone or date someone. We get excited when we see them or when we talk to them. We tell our friends about the conversations we have and the special dates we went on together. Playground_love_girl_vert We get the butterflies in our tummy…I know I sound like a little girl saying all this but let’s be serious, young or old we still feel this way when someone begins to tug at our hearts.

Now reflect on your relationship with Jesus. Is that tenderness in your heart for Him as prominent as it is when you’re in love? Do you think about Him all the time and smile uncontrollably? Do you find yourself getting giddy talking to your friends about the things he said to you? Do you get dressed up to meet Him at a secret place, quiet and intimate?

How we think about Him says everything about who He is to us…our relationship with Him. Can I honestly say I’m in love with God, say He’s the lover of my soul and be found bored with Him…not wanting to spend time with Him or allowing Him to be enough, when I know full well that He is more than enough. How does this reflect my love for Him? I’m not saying it’s wrong to desire a relationship, but when the desire for someone is greater than our longing for God we have to take a step back. There were seasons when I would be bored with Jesus…I loved Him I said but I wasn’t captivated. Then there were moments when I would be enamored by Him. The moment I realized my mediocre life with Him…my half hearted marriage…I needed to do something. I begged Him to place a longing so deep in my heart that I wouldn’t be able to contain myself. I wanted/want a longing that would burn everyday, not just every once in a while, but even in the dry seasons.

God said: “You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes.” Song of Solomon 4:9

I will look upon the face of the Lord and melt for Him. He’s a big mush! Look at the words he speaks into our hearts. Let’s make Him feel as special as He makes us feel.

God put this in my heart and I hope you ladies will join me. I propose a date night with Jesus. Let’s pick one night (or day) out of the week and go out on a date with God. Let’s get all pretty, pick a secret spot, and just spend time with Him…a little different then our usual quiet time at home or in the park. Let’s sit across from Him over dinner or coffee and talk, laugh, or cry whatever you need to do. But let’s go out with Him and be enchanted. Come home with an uncontained smile, twirling through the streets. Let’s be immersed in His Love. So I hope you’ll join me then come back here to share your story…we would love to hear the of your first date with Jesus.

God Bless You Ladies…

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Redefining the Single Girl

November 12, 2009 By Sonia 4 Comments

Single: only one in number, consisting of only one part, solitary, sole, lone, pertaining to the unmarried state, and lacking a partner . The etymology of the word single is “unaccompanied or unsupported.”

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According to the world we are defined by the person who does or does not stand beside us. Our state of being, of living, is classified as married or unmarried…the latter carrying a slightly dismal tone.

I get so frustrated reading these definitions

Let's be serious now!!

– solitary, lone, consisting of only one part, pertaining to an unmarried state, lacking a partner. Because I am single, I am incomplete? NO!

As daughters of the Almighty God, we are not, have never been and will never be alone or incomplete!

Where in God’s Word does it say your joy will be made full when you have a husband? Where in His Word does it say we are alone until you are united with a spouse? Where is the Word does it say our life will begin when we have a boyfriend/husband to be with?

There is a different man and His name is Jesus! He makes our Joy complete: “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love… I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” [John 15:9-11]

We are not alone and yet so many of us feel alone.

I’m sick and tired of women feeling sorry for themselves because they aren’t dating or married. I’m tired of people looking into the face of a single girl, with an expression of pity followed by the words, “Don’t worry, God will bring you someone someday.” I’m sick and tired of the idea that a woman is not happy, satisfied, complete, fulfilled, purposed, called or alive because she doesn’t have someone to call ‘my boyfriend’ or ‘my husband.’ I’m sick and tired of being defined as a single girl as opposed to redefining the single girl.

If a woman can not be happy, satisfied, complete, fulfilled, purposed, called or alive as a single woman she will never be any of those things. In fact she will suffer a life of deceptive reflection – looking into a mirror revealing a distorted silhouette. She analyzes every part of herself, focusing on the things she doesn’t have and completely missing the beauty of what she does have.

A season of singleness is a blessing – a beautiful gem unbeknownst to the blind. “A single woman has something a married woman has given away the night of her wedding: extra time for Jesus.” (Jones & Kendall, Lady in Waiting) The only difference between a single woman and a married woman is that she has the time to be completely lost with God.

I implore you ladies: Fall further in Love with Jesus. Be so lost in Him that the enemy would not dare come near you. Any arrows infected with loneliness, insecurity, sorrow, envy, un-fulfillment or incompletion will ricochet so fast that they will not have a moment’s time to dwell in your mind much less your heart. Let Him fear the thought of attacking the Daughter of King Jesus. Even if He wants to (and we know he does) he will have trouble finding you.

The word says: “You have died and our life is Hidden with Christ in God.” [Colossians 3:3] By far one of my favorite verses – The moment we allowed King Jesus to take us, He hid us in His arms in the shelter of the Almighty God our Abba Father. We are comforted in daddy’s arms: chiLDonshoulder

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,
the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort,
who comforts us in all our troubles,
so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the
comfort we ourselves have received from God.”

[1 Corinthians 1:3-4]

So ladies let us take this journey together. Walk with me as we live radically, redefining ‘The Single Girl’ as whole, complete, available for God, lost with God, partnered, comforted, fulfilled, purposed, and loved. Let us be found diligent, full of faith, virtuous, consecrated, pure, secure, satisfied, convinced and patient women of God lack nothing so let us walk out our faith and encourage one another to persevere.

We don’t have to wait to begin living our lives the day God unites us with the man He has prepared for us. We are already married – our spouse will join the marriage and we will share in the Joy we have found in Jesus. Right now let’s take advantage in serving and loving God with all our time in this season. Don’t live in a comatose state but be fervent and seek the Lord. Our fullness in Christ will be the reason for a paradigm shift in the world around us – Let’s be the change.

Father God, Thank you for the blessing of our single years. Thank you my God for providing us the time to spend getting lost with you. I’m sorry Lord that we have been blind in thinking that our Joy is made complete in the futile things of this world. We know that our fulfillment is found in you and the day we are united as husband and wife with the man you have prepared for us, we will come together to share in the Joy we have found in you. Let this season be a refinement. We are willing and open to the leading of your spirit. Let us be astute to your words and quick in obedience. And let our hearts be restless for you rather than restless for a season that are not yet called to be in. We love you Lord. You are our daddy and we are your girls. Take us into your comforting hands and do with us what you will. In Jesus’ Sweet Name I pray. Amen

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